I genuinely don’t understand when people do this. I hate it. Even if I have a similar story, I almost never throw it in, usually only if it contradicts a story from someone else I don’t like.
So if 10 people are sitting around a circle, and one says they had trouble parking their car, and everyone else tells some perfectly mundane, time-filling story about a universal experience, you would genuinely thing that’s time well spent? You’d spend an hour mostly listening to people talk about “yeah, once time I tried to parallel park, and it was a small spot, took me 3 tries.”?
And you’d rather NOT use the time to ask the person about their experience? Find out how it made them feel? Find out what they learned from the experience or how it differed from “yeah, parallel parking. That’s sometimes not easy.”? How that moment of time helped them grow as a person?
Sure, not applicable to every single story, but I also don’t listen to podcasts where it’s 4 dudes on a panel saying the same thing over and over and over and over. “Yes, that also happened to me, because it happens to everyone.” Why not seek to learn about someone?
Besides obvious bragging, some people just want to tell you everything they know, or some might feel strongly about some topic that they want everyone to know about even if others already know about it.
If you have difficulty understanding why somebody is saying something, you should try to pay attention to how they’re saying it. It might explain why, even if their words don’t.
i connect with others like that. the people i know (many of them autistic like me) also mostly do it. getting together means sharing a bunch of stories, which i like.
Yeah I genuinely love sharing a thing and learning someone else also has experiences with that thing.
If my story about playing a cool game I got recently reminded you of a fun time you had with a game like it I want to hear it. Like, that’s the whole point of me telling said story - I went out on a limb and was hoping for expansion!
When I do it it’s like “Wow that was so much fun hearing your experience of that thing! Let me tell you my exact same experience so you can get dopamine, too!” I’m actually pretty commited to the reality that I’m a relatively boring person, so I never think my story is better.
I genuinely don’t understand when people do this. I hate it. Even if I have a similar story, I almost never throw it in, usually only if it contradicts a story from someone else I don’t like.
“I understand what you say and will now try to connect with you by sharing my similar experience”. It’s just how communication and most humans work
So if 10 people are sitting around a circle, and one says they had trouble parking their car, and everyone else tells some perfectly mundane, time-filling story about a universal experience, you would genuinely thing that’s time well spent? You’d spend an hour mostly listening to people talk about “yeah, once time I tried to parallel park, and it was a small spot, took me 3 tries.”?
And you’d rather NOT use the time to ask the person about their experience? Find out how it made them feel? Find out what they learned from the experience or how it differed from “yeah, parallel parking. That’s sometimes not easy.”? How that moment of time helped them grow as a person?
Sure, not applicable to every single story, but I also don’t listen to podcasts where it’s 4 dudes on a panel saying the same thing over and over and over and over. “Yes, that also happened to me, because it happens to everyone.” Why not seek to learn about someone?
Besides obvious bragging, some people just want to tell you everything they know, or some might feel strongly about some topic that they want everyone to know about even if others already know about it.
If you have difficulty understanding why somebody is saying something, you should try to pay attention to how they’re saying it. It might explain why, even if their words don’t.
i connect with others like that. the people i know (many of them autistic like me) also mostly do it. getting together means sharing a bunch of stories, which i like.
Yeah I genuinely love sharing a thing and learning someone else also has experiences with that thing.
If my story about playing a cool game I got recently reminded you of a fun time you had with a game like it I want to hear it. Like, that’s the whole point of me telling said story - I went out on a limb and was hoping for expansion!
I’m people and I’m sorry
I’m not sorry, my story is much better of course
When I do it it’s like “Wow that was so much fun hearing your experience of that thing! Let me tell you my exact same experience so you can get dopamine, too!” I’m actually pretty commited to the reality that I’m a relatively boring person, so I never think my story is better.
I think its most annoying when its the same person who always jumps in an ongoing conversion… and they somehow have a more “impressive” story to tell.
Brian Regan called them “Me Monsters” lol
I fucking hate that shit lol